Money Mindset RESET with Danetha Doe of Money & Mimosas ®
Introduction
Tenisha Nicole
Welcome back to another episode of Black Girl fly. I'm your girl Tenisha Nicole. I'm Shana Dixon. And today we have a special guest post. We are talking to Denise doe guys. Like, are you ready?
Tashaunda Dixon
I am so ready. It's a first.
Danetha Doe
First good.
Tenisha Nicole
So Denita is joining us right now she's in Flagstaff, Arizona,
Danetha Doe
but
Tenisha Nicole
she resides in Oakland. And so she is just an all around amazing person, y'all. I don't think you understand how amazing she is. We're gonna put her full bio available that'll be in the show notes for you. But we just want to hand it over to the meat that it just what would you like the people to know about you like as we dive into this conversation?
Danetha Doe
Sure. Yes. Thank you so much for the warm welcome. What would I like the people to know about me I like I said, I'm, I reside in Oakland, California. I'm originally from the East Coast United States. I am a Financial Wellness Educator and the creator of money and mimosas, which is a wealth education company for the self employed. I started after a career as an accountant. I love all things money. But I also love some other things too, like in terms of business marketing, branding, PR I, a former professional dancer, and I couldn't find a career that had all of that in one umbrella. And I thought it was unfair to ask my employer to make that for me. So I just decided to start my own company. Yeah, so that was back in 2012. And money and mimosas actually started. I quit my accounting job that morning. And then that lunch, I treated myself to lunch, it was Mimosa lunch at a French Cafe in San Francisco. I didn't have any plans. I had minimal savings. I just ordered a mimosa, took out a napkin and just pens on the back of the napkin, what I wanted my life to feel like and look like, wow, that in hindsight was where money MMO started. I didn't have money in my Moses all planned out and strategy. But that was the start of this journey.
Tashaunda Dixon
Wasn't that scary? Like, what made you feel like you could make that decision?
Danetha Doe
naivete? Was I scared, I should have been, I was not I I made that decision. You know, I will give credit to my father for this. Because after college, I did have a job. And I was really unhappy with that job. And I felt I had to keep it though, because I had just finished school, I needed to pay back student loans, which are predatory. But that's a side note. And I just felt that, you know, that was the right thing to do was to stay in my job. And I remember calling my dad just crying. And I felt so entitled and so icky about it, complaining about it. But he gave me the biggest gift he said and he said if you are not happy, you are too young, to not to keep doing something that doesn't make you happy. And in that moment, he gave me so much permission to just take a leap of faith whenever I felt that this wasn't a good fit for me. And so that's what I carried with me when I quit that job and started money. MMO says,
Happiness and Work
Tashaunda Dixon
yeah, so did you grow up with this concept of you should be happy in your work? Was that something that was kind of ingrained in you? Or was that like a new discovery in that discussion?
Danetha Doe
That was a new discovery in that discussion. In terms of that framing, I do grew up with parents, my mom and my dad made it very clear. They set the intention when they gave when they started their family that they want to raise kids that were independent thinkers. And as I grew older, they shared that intention with me and looking back I can see all the different points that they tried to make that a reality for us whether that my mom was a stay at home mom and she would plan museum trips and field trips for us to just expose us to different different things just to get get us inspired and to see what was out there for us to potentially as a career just for fun. And so to answer your question in that moment, that was the first time I'd heard my dad say, find a career that makes you happy but all the way up to that my parents had been instilling that belief within me.
Overcome Entrepreneur Nervousness
Tenisha Nicole
And so one thing that we've come across is like entrepreneurship is Carry, like, How did you land on like, you could do that for yourself and like create a living survive thrive, right? Like, what made you think? Or like, how did you overcome? Yeah, it
Tashaunda Dixon
wasn't the three careers we grew up with.
Danetha Doe
Right? Entrepreneurship was not one of the three that we talked about lawyer, accountant doctor, yet well, I will say, I did have a unique upbringing. But to make it more relatable, I did graduate in 2008, from college during the financial crisis, which was a terrible time to be a human being. And I studied economics, I initially wanted to be on Wall Street, being an investment banker. And that was not an option when I graduated. And in that moment, I almost had an existential crisis. Looking back on it, I'm able to label it as that because I had been taught all of these things about how money works, how the markets work, how a job is supposed to work, you're supposed to, if you go to school, you're supposed to get a good job. And there's, of course, that's supposed to happen. And that was not the case. And I had a moment, a moment, being a year, a year and a half of realizing that a lot of things I had been taught were either straight up lies or just not going to be applicable going forward. And, and that was a tough pill to swallow just as a young adult, realizing that these adults who were supposed to know better than me didn't and didn't have my best interest at heart. And that's when I realized I needed to just question everything I've been taught about money, nothing that anyone has told me up until this point is probably true or applicable. And I just need to forge my own path. Because, yeah, that experience was earth shattering for me.
Myths and Money
Tenisha Nicole
Yeah, I can only imagine. I'm like, so now that we're on the topic of like, kind of the myths of money. I'm wondering, like, what were some of those things you've learned in the process that, you know, that you know, differently now, right, that were the lies about money.
Danetha Doe
The biggest one was that money is just black and white numbers on a page, I had never been exposed to the energy of money and seeing money as spiritual as psychological as emotional. Yeah. And that is something that many of us are not exposed to. And I believe we're not exposed to it intentionally. Because once we tap into that, we realize, oh, I can question everything that anyone ever tells me about anything in life, but particularly money. And so that was the biggest lesson for me. biggest myth, I had to unlearn in this process, some other myths, some tangible myths, where I talked about going to college and then being able to have a secure job after that is not a guarantee. And that that was a myth that I had to debunk the myth of owning a home is the best path to financial success. For some folks, it is for others, it's not. So there's this guess, overarching idea that financial success is cookie cutter that I had to unpack as a myth that no, it's actually not cookie cutter. It's can be very individual if you if as an individual, you want to take into consideration your values, what you feel is enjoyable or fulfilling in life, all of that plays a role into financial success.
Money Mindset
Tashaunda Dixon
So I think that kind of goes to your whole money mindset. Can you talk about what that means?
Danetha Doe
money mindset, yes, money mindset, I like to I feel that there's a lot of connection between financial health and physical health and money mindset is part of your financial health. Just like nutrition is a part of your physical health. So just like you've got to feed your body with wholesome foods, we have to feed our minds with wealthy thoughts. And many of the messages that most of us are exposed to are scarcity minded or they come from
Danetha Doe
Yes, and fear and just lack and so there's two, money mindsets, scarcity and abundant mindset. This was made popular by Stephen Covey in his book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. And yeah, scarcity, money mindset, there's this fundamental belief that there's not enough to go around whereas an abundant mindset has a healthy balance of optimism and reality where you do know that there's enough to go around and so you operate from that place. And so, money mindset just like nutrition is a big part of your health. Oftentimes, we focus on the tactical steps of I need to say to X amount each month or I need to do XYZ, I need to increase my credit score without but if we don't give thought to the mindset piece behind this, the likelihood of someone achieving that goal is much less.
How do you Enforce the Right Mindset
Tashaunda Dixon
So what are some things that you would tell people like Mike, how do you enforce this the right mindset?
Danetha Doe
Yeah, I, there are a lot of exercises to do around this, I would say the first place to start is reflecting on your money memory, your money, memories, and particularly your first money memory. Usually that is. Usually it starts between the ages of six and eight. So yeah, you mentioned your daughter, seven, she's right in that range. And so that's usually when we're exposed to money beforehand. And between six and eight, we start to create a story around what we're seeing around money, whether that's conversations we hear adults saying, or the feelings that we pick up on, a lot of folks I speak to will say, Well, my family never talks about money. Yes, but you definitely picked up on something and it was probably emotional. And that is in your psyche that's in your unconscious that's in the plate, the shadow self, were you
Tashaunda Dixon
kind of ahead of what mine would be.
Tenisha Nicole
Yes. So we're, like, our money, mindsets are completely opposite. So
Tashaunda Dixon
we grew up. So we're five and a half years apart as well. And so I feel like we grew up in different I remember mom teaching you how to balance a checkbook.
Tenisha Nicole
And like, I remember going on vacation, and
Tashaunda Dixon
and so that tells you about our differences.
Danetha Doe
I can draw a line. But yeah, Tom articulated to me out what is the difference?
Tenisha Nicole
So I have a very abundant, I am on
Tashaunda Dixon
the fear level. And she's like, we can do whatever
Tenisha Nicole
I do. I do everything that I want. And I'm like the money. It'll figure itself out. And she's lived
Tashaunda Dixon
this way her entire life.
Danetha Doe
Interesting. Yeah. Because
Tenisha Nicole
that's what the vacationing was about. We actually didn't know how we were going to pay our rent, but we were going on vacation. Okay. I wouldn't do that.
Tashaunda Dixon
Well, I guess to like, you were talking about emotions, like I can remember my mom being stressed around those times of that, and she just saw the vacation, apparently. But I saw the the working late, and I was watching you while she was working extra hours. So I can definitely see how that you know, the emotion of what I was feeling then definitely plays a role into how I think about money now. 30 years later,
Tenisha Nicole
yeah. Yeah, that's cool. Thank
Danetha Doe
you. And I love thank you for bringing up the point that you can grow up in the same household and have vastly different perspectives on money based upon the relationship with either parents or just the memories that you recall. And so yes, but yes, definitely. It seems like that first money memory is still playing out in certain ways.
Rewrite Money Memories
Tenisha Nicole
That's crazy. Yeah. What what I mean, I'm curious, what was your first flight? We can't change
Tashaunda Dixon
other people's memories?
Danetha Doe
Oh, my gosh, I love it. Okay, so now that I know the intention behind this, this is what I'll say is that we can rewrite our money story. And so that first money memory, yes, it plays into our money story. It's a tape that keeps reading in our minds. And we can intentionally, once we are aware of it bring attention to it, we can rewrite the lesson that we took from that money memory and that, you know, if you're someone that operates more from a scarcity mindset, because you mentioned like, Hey, I learned how to balance a checkbook, I watched mom be stressed about money growing up, you can rewrite that to mean something else. You know, I know how to be really practical and pragmatic with money. I know how to be really aware of where each dollar is going and being intentional about it. So that yes, there's there's no, there's hope, once you realize, oh, okay, this money memory.
Tashaunda Dixon
That's important. I think I would say that they are on that spectrum to that, that they've had these experiences similar to ours. And you're like, wait, what do I do about it? I know it's wrong, or at least I've been able to acknowledge that there's something that I'm missing here. So I think that's cool.
Danetha Doe
Yeah, and I just want to say too, that there's nothing wrong about any money memory. And it's more about is it serving you because they're was, to some point, our money memories do serve us I like to say that the tools we need to survive are going to be different than the tools we need to thrive. And so up until a point that money memory is helping you get to a certain point. But then, then once you're ready to rewrite that money story, that's when you'll revisit it and see,
Tashaunda Dixon
really cool to hear you say that I didn't mean to cut you off. But it's really cool to hear you say that because we that was the content that we got to like, we were talking about how we struggled. And even we have an episode we talk about the money gurus, like all the people and how they have different philosophies. And what we found is that there is there's a, how do you get by? And then there's a how do you thrive?
Danetha Doe
Yes, there definitely is.
How do you know your Money Mindset
Tashaunda Dixon
And so speaking on that with the money mindset and whatnot, how do you how do you, like know where you are in the getting by and then divided and get into the Thrive?
Danetha Doe
That is a really great question. It depends on the individual. There's a point, I believe that each one of us knows when something's not working for us anymore, if we're honest with ourselves. And so on a pragmatic level, if you are if the individual is realizing, hey, I want to achieve, I want to buy my first investment property, and you just keep getting hitting roadblock after roadblock, maybe you say you're going to save X amount, but you just aren't able to discipline yourself to do that, or you aren't taking the process seriously enough, that's when you start to question, okay, how am I getting into my own way? Now, this is withstanding all the economic structures that work against many of us being black people being black women. So I want to be very clear that I'm not dismissing that my background is in economics. So I do have a painful awareness of how damaging the structure is. My work through money in my Moses is to focus on the individual and give tools that allow us to get back our power. But that's so I say all that because I want to be very clear that I'm not dismissing all the nuances to what I just said, it's just more of what can the individual do to realize, hey, I'm the one getting in my own way, I am self sabotaging. So those are some things to ask yourself, if you realize, Wow, I keep setting this goal. But my actions aren't meeting the stated goal that I'm trying to achieve. That's the time to start asking yourself, hey, something I'm doing not serving me anymore? And how so?
Tenisha Nicole
Yeah, and I definitely think, I don't know, in the last couple of years that we've had this podcast, it's been, you know, I feel like we would get into a rut is that's kind of what I hear you saying, like when you're getting into a rut or like things just are not working out? Like, that's the time to take a step back and reevaluate the situation. And so we've had times that you bought a real estate that's been one of those areas for us. And certainly, like just budgeting and I think even our financial gurus have transitioned over, you know, during the pandemic, especially because money looks very different. During this time for both of us,
Tashaunda Dixon
I think I would even carry that into our entrepreneurship endeavors as well, is that you saw that same kind of experience where if you're trying to do something, you hit the wall, web stop and evaluate, you know what happened? I really do think that that's something that sounds like something that he can really apply across the board health, as well in health
Danetha Doe
thinking, Oh, yes, I mean, health as well as everything's connected. And a lot of the lessons that we learn, I think money, I believe firmly that money is a great tool for self discovery. And the way we relate to money can shine a light on other aspects of our life, whether that's in our love life, or our friendship, life, or our health, the way we treat money often is a reflection of how we treat those other areas of our lives. And yeah, I didn't want to say too, because you mentioned ruts. There's rats, there's dark nights of the souls I've been to that many times and each time, the question is, how did I get here? And when you answer that, honestly, for yourself, as painful as that is, there's a lot of growth from that there's a lot of gold from that process. So yeah, all of that is a part of the journey.
Tenisha Nicole
And I just want to flag one thing because I heard you say that word, honestly a couple of times. Really important, and like I think we learned ourselves. Yeah, I think I think we all do like We tell ourselves sometimes what we want to hear, rather than what may actually be the case. It's I'm just wondering, how do you tap into that? Honestly, please like for people who might be struggling with that, I'm just speaking. To myself,
Tashaunda Dixon
I feel like I'm like, Yeah, I'm
Tenisha Nicole
going, knowing that it's better
Tashaunda Dixon
to deal with that later.
Danetha Doe
Yes, I mean, there is a period when we have to rest, like in terms of not always being so hard and critical on ourselves and coming up with every item to fix. And you'll just overwhelm yourself and wear yourself out. And I think I came from
Tashaunda Dixon
that space, by the way, I do. Thinking about that I am more honest with myself, than I think I am with everyone else. And so I found myself in that in that predicament where I'm like, I'm so hard on myself, I'm so hard on myself. And I'm, like, really critical of what I do, and whatnot. And so I just started to say, I can only
Danetha Doe
take so much. Does that make sense? Yeah. Okay,
Being Honest with Yourself
Danetha Doe
to answer your question, though, Tenisha, about being honest with yourself. So everyone's on a different part of their journey, if some folks need to take a step back and stop being so self critical. If an individual though is in that place of I need to be more honest with myself. And there's just some things in my life that I want to shift, and I realized that I'm the one getting in the way, how do I do it? There's a couple of tools. Um, a lot of them are individual tools. A lot of them aren't pragmatic. One plus one equals two types of tools. So depending upon the person, you know, journaling is a great one to bring self awareness to the situation. There's also someone's into astrology, that's a really powerful tool on working on the self and better understand
Tashaunda Dixon
astrology. Could you explain that a little bit or elaborate on that? Yeah, sure,
Danetha Doe
astrology is helpful. So astrology, folks that may be completely new to astrology, we probably all know our Sun sign, the month you're born dictates what Sun is your sign. But astrology is much more than that you have a moon sign, you have a rising sign, you've got all the planets, and all the zodiac signs on what's known as your birth chart. And what it is is a snapshot of the sky, the constellations, stars of when you were first we took your first breath. And so everyone is literally unique because there's no other snapshot of that exact time of when you took your first breath, and what astrology does and what it can do on this topic of being honest with yourself is getting really clear on what you are made up of. So for instance, our moon sign when it comes to money shows us our can show us our money blocks what the universe has put in our way so to speak, to get in our path of of this journey, and I'll just throw out a sign a Gemini moon, one of their challenges when it comes to money is they are they always fluctuate they always vacillate, they can never land on one topic and just like go with it. That's generally speaking. That's your mood. That's your sun sign. Oh, my gosh, I'm I yeah, I love Geminis.
Tenisha Nicole
Oh,
Danetha Doe
they don't understand you. They don't get it. Yeah, so once someone gets really honest with themselves about hey, you know, I know that I am someone that likes to jump from idea to idea to idea and that's part of my makeup. Once they accept they're aware of it, they accept it, then you can create a system to support you in that maybe realize, you know what, I need to hire an assistant that is not a Gemini moon and is very to the point and directs with me to keep me in line. He or she they know that I'm going to change my mind from Monday to Wednesday, and they are going to make sure that I stay on top of that or not to that perhaps it's you've got calendar reminders of I know, I just made this decision last week or I make a decision. I'm gonna put a note in my calendar and in a week from now, knowing that I'm going to probably change my mind and this little note will pop up and say, hey, you know, you're gonna do the same thing that you said last week. So once you really know yourself, that's what astrology is for a lot of folks up not a lot of folks, there are plenty of folks that don't operate from self awareness. There are more folks that operate from self awareness. Then there are folks that operate from self knowledge. So there are folks that They are aware of that they're doing certain things that may be self sabotaging, but they don't know why. And astrology is a tool for knowing why you're doing it.
Money and Mimosa Education
Tashaunda Dixon
Is that like one of the things that you teach in money in the most like, like, what's the framework for your education that you provide?
Danetha Doe
That's one of the things I teach Yes. How to manifest money. With astrology, the framework is based on two philosophies. The main one being financial freedom is a journey of self love, once we really know ourselves really accept ourselves on a radical level, which just means getting to the root of it, then you can truly love yourself. And that's where financial freedom really comes into play. There are a lot of people that make money and still don't feel financially free, because they don't love themselves. And so financial freedom is a journey of self love is the overarching philosophy. And from there, the teachings include, yes, I teach about manifesting money with astrology. I teach a lot about money mindset, particularly for folks that want to transform their middle class, money mindsets, which is oftentimes not looked at how the middle class upbringing can impact your ability to level up in your financial life. For a lot of reasons. That's why, and then yeah, I teach about how to use Can I curse on this podcast? You can, okay, okay. Yeah, I teach a lot about just how to move from being financially comfortable to having fucking money. I firmly believe in being in a place where you don't care what other than
Tashaunda Dixon
I'm sure our listeners want to get to that point.
Danetha Doe
Yeah, and just to be clear, it's not like aggressive fuck you. It's just like, I just don't have the time to deal with bullshit. So I'm just going to have the finances to be able to move in the world that I how I want to move it, how I want to move in it. So yes, those are that's what I teach about. What's the
Tenisha Nicole
journey? I mean, is that the journey you went through class, and then what like, self love is foundational, and then it sounds like maybe this middle class, and then the fuck you money?
Danetha Doe
You got to get there? Yes, I mean, I will say all of this starts in the mind and the body first. And so that that's an I, it's mind, body, and spirit. If someone's open to that, it's there first. And then you will manifest that in the physical realm, meaning in your bank account and in the assets you own. So self love is foundational, I think we talked a little bit about that with astrology with middle class money mindset, that's interesting. That's one that I landed on, after just observing my own experience, and just talking to so many clients over the years that that was their experience was that they didn't grow up. They grew up in the middle class, they grew up, not necessarily concerned about food being on the table or the lights being on. But those of us that grew up middle class know that that doesn't mean that you don't think about money from in a stressful or anxious way. And so the first place I start is acknowledging the gifts that were given to us. From the folks that were around us, they likely built, elevated the family from whatever class or, you know, situation they were raised in to get to middle class. So they brought a lot of tools that they instilled within their children from that, whether that was resourcefulness, industriousness, courage. There's a lot of skills that come. Yeah, I mean, just thinking
Tashaunda Dixon
about the generation, right? If you're our age, your parents grew up in an era where black people were just getting, you know, to work and fill people out list. So yeah,
Danetha Doe
okay. Exactly. Yeah. So there's no shame in it is the first part, there's a lot of gifts that were given to us that folks that did not that that were just born with a silver spoon in their mouth do not have and they will never have and they actually really envy that, that they don't have that ability to figure it out when their backs against the wall. So that's the first place to start. And then the second place, the middle class money mindset. There's a lot of blocks, though that do come from them. One of them that I found that's most helpful to talk about, is this association with of hard work with making more money. We feel that we've got to work more hours. Yes. Yeah, so this idea of leveraging is a mindset shift for many folks that were raised middle class, I
Tashaunda Dixon
actually talked about that in episode how we found that especially in the black community, in the female black community, a lot less women use loans, to expand their business to grow faster. And we could definitely see that just in those types of instances. So it's, it's cool that you brought it up because I think I've seen that manifest. across so many different platforms.
Danetha Doe
Yeah, I love that you brought up loans as an example, whether it's loans, getting investors, this idea that we have to do it all ourselves is very much ingrained in us now for a lot of, of history, we had to do it all ourselves. So there was a reason for that. So and but now the question is, hey, is this serving me moving forward? And so yes, that's a big piece is, Am I comfortable using other people's money? Because wealthy people are very comfortable using other people's money? Yes.
Tenisha Nicole
I mean, so I'm really glad you brought this up, because I was actually legitimately thinking about taking out a business loan today, but I was like, I'm afraid because you have to pay the money back. Can you guarantee you're gonna pay the money back, right? Like, you're gonna make enough money to put the money back. And I'm like, that's probably the tangible struggle that I'm having with it, like the doubt in my own abilities to generate,
Tashaunda Dixon
you know, even though you made the money.
Tenisha Nicole
I have a track record.
Danetha Doe
Exactly what I was gonna say.
Tashaunda Dixon
I'm gonna say, so they're gonna give you the money, because you show a track record that you can pay it back, but you don't actually believe make it make sense. I don't I just want to be understood what you're Yeah. Is that what you're that?
Tenisha Nicole
That is? Correct. Okay.
Danetha Doe
Well, yes, I mean, that's the thing with money. It's like, okay, so thankfully, you have a sister to reflect back to you, Hey, you're good. You, you've always come through for yourself. And I will add to that, too, you may get it intellectually, but it's a different space when you actually embody it. And so that that's part of the journey is really embodying the truth that your sister just shared was, yeah, I get that intellectually. But we, within that, that doubt may still creep in. And that's where the embodiment piece comes in. And really embodiment just comes from experience, like putting yourself out there and betting on yourself. And
Tashaunda Dixon
just you suggest that as like a way to kind of overcome some of those things, just taking that
Danetha Doe
leap. I can't get financial advice.
Tashaunda Dixon
Prior to just taking a loan. And
Danetha Doe
I will say though, that is the best way to I mean, think about it. It's like, it's like working out, it's like having sex, can you just think about it and figure it out? No, you actually like, have to do it, have to feel it have to trust your body to know what to do. Same thing goes with money. The body is so wise, it's it gives us so many answers that our mind can't come to. Sometimes when I have a question, for example, I'll and I can't get to it. Like I feel like I'm just beating my brain up. I'll stop asking myself that question. I'll stop trying to figure it out. And I'll do yoga class. And miraculously, the answer will just pop in. And it's because of that release and just letting the body take over
Tashaunda Dixon
about the the middle class mindset now to the fuck you money.
Danetha Doe
Yes, yeah, I mean fucking money that is very uncomfortable for folks that were raised with a middle class background, middle class principles of we have to be polite and think about the entire community and not just ourselves. And when I was gonna raise my hand, that transition is really tough for some folks, and that is the what's required to have fucking money. It does require being unapologetic about putting yourself first and in ways that feel very uncomfortable, often, so
Tashaunda Dixon
how do you like Like, like, honestly, that is my big thing. Like even I was thinking about, I was like, Oh, I'm gonna do really well, in x month. I was like, I'm gonna give someone a bonus. And like, Why did I just think of that? Like, why? So how do you get past that type of mindset? How do you get past those feelings?
Danetha Doe
Yeah, I Well, awareness is key, first and foremost. So you are aware, I think Self knowledge is great, too. There might be part of your makeup that's drawn to being more community focused. So if you have, for instance, a lot of cancer on your birth chart, folks with cancers, heavy birth charts, do care about community more than the self versus an Aries, who really only cares about themselves. And Aries Moon by
Tenisha Nicole
the way. I think that makes
Danetha Doe
sense. Yeah. So that's where Self knowledge is helpful, because then you can start to see how am I just made up this way? Then beyond that, though, there's cultural reasons for why you might do it. There's upbringing reasons. There's societal reasons. You know, it's, we live in a society where women are supposed to be the nurturer and supposed to be and I'm using quotes for folks that can't see me are supposed to be the ones that take care of everyone else but themselves almost like a martyr. And so that's a lot of unlearning, that has to happen. But a practical exercise that someone can do to start working through that is little steps of, I recommend doing a weekly Money Day where you become aware of your financial decisions from the week prior. So you're sitting down, I recommend doing it every Friday, Friday is governed by the planet Venus, which is all about beauty and abundance. And when you sit down and look at your financial decisions from the past week, if you know that that's something that you're working through of putting other people first before yourself, that's the time to look at all the money that you spent that week. And if it's reflected that concept of oh, I bought so and so this so and so that I took care of the kids here and here and here and here. And where am I on this. And once you start bringing attention to it, you can make little adjustments, maybe you treat yourself to a fresh bouquet of flowers every Wednesday, regardless of if you did anything to deserve it, you just are treating yourself so that maybe it's necessary to put money to it, you know, there are ways to treat yourself that don't require money. But since we're talking about moving to fucky money, it does require spending money, and not big amounts of money, but small steps where you're putting yourself first. So awareness with the money dates, and, and then making small strides to spend money on yourself.
Tenisha Nicole
I mean, I think it was so important what your what you said, just about making sure you have a solid foundation. And so for the folks listening, I mean, I just want to share that's my biggest takeaway here is like, you can try to do these other level you can try to do the fuck you money. But if your foundation isn't solid, and your your mind body and your spirit,
Tashaunda Dixon
I was gonna say that's important for me, though, is it's not just about like money actions. It's about checking, checking yourself your complete self. In this process, I think that was the biggest takeaway for you to like, yeah, that it's not just about the money part. It's about your whole self, and also taking all those things that made you who you are. So it's really cool.
Tenisha Nicole
And I like that you said we can rewrite
Danetha Doe
our story. So
Tashaunda Dixon
here we go three, right.
Tenisha Nicole
I mean, that gives us the power to like author this journey.
Tashaunda Dixon
I hope our listeners heard that too, that there's a lot that you can do. And Anita and money, Emma Moses can help you get there.
Closing Thoughts
Tenisha Nicole
Is there any like kind of closing thoughts or ideas you would like to share? Kind of with the folks?
Danetha Doe
Thanks for that? Yeah, I do want to thank you for walking away with that takeaway about the foundation because there are so many people that do you have what we would think as fuck you money on paper, and they are not solid, they are not happy, they are not fulfilled. And and that's my hope with this work is to bring that peace to this conversation about money and really help folks reclaim their power, before they get to a point where they they start making a lot of money because you can make a lot of money without doing this foundational work. Absolutely. And so thank you for having that takeaway. I would say the last point that I would like to share with folks is invite folks who get really clear on their values when it comes to the financial decisions that we're making. We're living in a time where seven year olds can start a YouTube channel and make money from AdSense, you know, the opportunities to make money are more and more abundance, folks are able to work for tech companies and become wealthy through their options at these companies. And so there's more and more opportunities, thankfully, for all of us to be a part of abundance, financial abundance, and then it's going to be about well, what are you going to do with that money? What is the legacy you're gonna leave we we live on a planet that every day is being harmed by us as humans? How are you going to make financial decisions that support Mother Earth? How are you going to make financial decisions that support the social responsibilities that you may have values around? So that would be the last thing that I would want to leave as folks get clear on that first, before you start welcoming in all of this abundance, because the abundance will come thankfully, we live in a time where more and more and more of it is being available to folks. So that's the last piece I'd love to leave. That's awesome. Yeah, I
Tenisha Nicole
want to thank you so much for your time and your wisdom tonight. Like seriously, I I feel like a changed woman. myself. I feel like I have to do this.
Danetha Doe
You Feel change you feel like you have more to do. Great.
Tenisha Nicole
And where can the folks find you online?
Danetha Doe
Yes, you can find out all about me at Money Mo Moses calm. I'm your girl. Tenisha Nicole and I'm Tashaunda Dixon and we are black girls fly.